Be lovable, do these on a date

There are some things you should and shouldn’t do if you’re wanting to land a second date. Trust me, I’ve been on a million first dates with all different types of guy—I know the first date rules for guys.

First dates are exciting. You like the girl and want to discover more about her. You’re just not sure how to go about it. Listen, you’re not the only one with first date jitters. Even your date probably worries she’s saying the right thing or looks good. We’re only human.

And while first date jitters are completely normal, the entire purpose is to see if you’re interested in seeing this person again.

First date rules for guys you need to know

Though you never really know what the other person is thinking, there are some basic rules to follow to make sure the date goes as smoothly as planned. If you have the basic mistakes out of the way, you can focus on what really matters: connection.

So, before your next first date, skim over these first date rules for guys and avoid breaking them. And if you do end up breaking some of these rules, don’t worry, it’s nothing to the end of the world. The good thing is this won’t be the last first date you’ll be going on, right? Right!

Follow these first date rules for guys, get a second date.

Be clear with what you want

So many men and women aren’t clear with their intentions and this is what actually causes problems. You both need to be on the same page. I know you think it’s mysterious to not tell someone what you’re looking for, but if you’re not clear, you’ll look like an asshole. Are you looking for something casual? Something serious? Be up front.

Don’t go dutch on the bill

I know everyone is about being progressive, but listen, it’s the first date. Just pay. This doesn’t mean you need to take her out for a fancy dinner, a simple coffee is a nice gesture and won’t break the bank. At the end of the day, no matter how progressive as a society we are, women are still looking for a gentleman.

Keep your hands to yourself

This isn’t your third date, it’s your first date. Keep your hands to yourself. The last thing she needs is the feeling you’re taking her out only to get in her pants. You may think that touching her shows your interest, but if anything, it just shows her that you do this with every girl. If you do touch her, make sure it’s not in a sexual way.

Get into the conversation

Don’t assume all women like the strong and silent type. We may think it’s sexy, but at the end of the day, we want someone who we can sit down with and talk over dinner. If you’re playing silent, she’ll think you’re emotionally closed off. So, do your best to engage in conversation. If you’re shy, it’s okay, you just need to give her something to work with.

Keep the date short

You may really dig her, but having a three hour first date is exhausting. You don’t want to make her feel like she has no way out. You want her to be curious enough to want to see you again. So, keep the first date short and sweet. Your first date should be no longer than an hour and a half. The mystery is what will bring her back for more.

Go easy on the booze

You may think going out for drinks is a good idea, but you should save that for the second or third date. No one wants to see you slurring ten minutes after meeting you. Getting drunk on a first date isn’t sexy, and if anything it increases your chances of saying something stupid. Plus, many women see excessive drinking as a red flag.

Make it for the daytime

The first date is supposed to be an easy and light introduction into who you are and vice versa. There shouldn’t be any romantic dim lighting. Your first date is about building a relationship and trust. So, ask her out during the daytime where she’ll feel most comfortable. Plus, also make sure the place you’re meeting is near her home.