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was in Senior Secondary One or Two(SSI, SSII) when I first heard the phrase: ‘Seducing spirit.' It was at a church retreat. Some people that called themselves ‘Prayer Warriors' directed it at me. Let me tell you the story...
I was in Senior Secondary One or Two(SSI, SSII) when I first heard the phrase: ‘Seducing spirit.' It was at a church retreat. Some people that called themselves ‘Prayer Warriors' directed it at me. Let me tell you the story:
It was actually my brother-in-law who forced me to go for the prayer session. And I mean, literally forced me. He saw these warriors praying for my friends. I heard they were confessing some strange things. Till date, I don't know what. As soon as he heard them, he was sure I was part and parcel of whatever spirit they had confessed to.
With much humiliation and indignation, I was compelled to kneel down for prayers. I soon discovered that the warriors were confused over what my ailment could be. Some said I had fowl spirit and others said I had dog spirit. I heard that someone who has a dog spirit would be banging like mad! A sort of Nymphomania. How could I have such a spirit when I was a virgin? Even now, I am not too crazy about sex. Funny revelations, if you ask me. Then, they said I had a seducing spirit. I threw a glance at one of them. As if sensing the question in my mind, he said: "You look at men and they follow you. They cannot control themselves…" blah! Blah! Blah! If I have such spirit, why didn't I get married until I had started noticing gray hairs in some secretive parts of my body? What is the essence of having such a spirit if I often feel that I can do without a man in my life? What is the usefulness of seducing a man to follow you and you'd still enjoy turning him down? Does it make sense or am I going nuts?
Of course, I wouldn't have minded having a spirit, especially if it was one that brought money! Why can't I have one that would make me rich? Yesterday, I had to scratch to be able to raise money to get to the office!
I decided to let them be until they made up their minds on the type of spirit I actually had. That was some years back.
I was reading Kunle Agunbameru's book "Sexual Harassment in Nigerian Tertiary Institutions," when I came across the phrase again. Have you read the book? No? Please try and get the book. It's one that ought to be in everyone's library. It keeps one abreast of your rights in case of harassment. Managers, secretaries, lecturers and students all need to have it! You need to know what constitutes sexual harassment before seeking the law. You need to know what to do. Please sisters, make sure you have it!
Kunle said some females deliberately go out of their way to seduce their lecturers! Hear him: "The lady who ordinarily occupies an inferior or disadvantaged position may possess certain privileges or powers that can force the lecturer to succumb to her antics. Some even have seducing spirits which they confess in churches following deliverance ministrations." I was just about to ask how the heck can Kunle prove one has a seducing spirit, when he added, "…however, this cannot be proved sociologically." A stupid man who decides to take a peep into a babe's cleavages or watches her bakassi as it bounces is simply asking for trouble! Kunle, remember that when you talk of antics!
I wish Kunle had taken time to explain how someone with seducing spirit acts or behaves. In as much as I believe in the power of Satan, I think we are giving him too much attention! If a man's pole wants to misbehave, whether seducing spirit or un-seducing spirit, he would fall. He wants it! The will lies in you as a man or woman and not in any spirit, imagined or real. The Bible calls it the free will. I was telling John that there was no excuse for a man who has a wife at home and still indulges in extra-marital affair. This is one of the mysteries of life I can never comprehend, no matter how hard I try. Imagine it. He has a wife at home, who presents her core for his pleasure anyway he wants it, whether left, centre or forward.
Yet, he would start lolling his tongue, like a dog in heat, after catching sight of Ekaete's buttocks clad in a tight jean. You don't think he's sick? You don't think such a man needs to visit 'Yaba left"? If your babe denies you of your fundamental bed rights and you jump outside to exercise those rights, she has herself to blame, but hey, when she gives it to you anytime, day or ways you asked for…. no, demand…you have absolutely no reason to start tasting and searching for such nectar outside. Later you'd blame it on Mr. Devil or like most men these days, a seducing spirit in their mistress. They would go, "Oh honey, I tried. Lord knows I tried to resist and flew from temptation. Honey, this is not ordinary eyes O!…I swear she uses juju." Rubbish! Why must it be you that the juju chose to catch?
John was not talking of seducing spirit. He called his own theory, ‘Atike, (face powder).' He claims that most men marry two wives or have affairs because some babes use juju on them. I gave him a strange look. He intercepted the look. Like one surrendering to on-coming missiles, he raised both hands and said, "No! No! You know I can never do that! No way, I can't f...k another lady, while I have my wife…"
I told him to stop blaming the frailties of men on juju. Glory and I agreed, that if you don't sniff a rotten fish, you would never know how horrible the stench was. In other words, juju can only catch you if you decide to 'chop" or perhaps you decide to do a ‘chop and clean mouth' style. This style is when the man tries to bang the lady once and disappears. Sometimes, it doesn't work out the way he planned. Instead of disappearing, he would even go home to pack and move into the babe's house. He may become irrational, hating everyone at home.
And before you know it, she has become the wife, while the real wife, would be kicked out!
My theory is, if you don't ‘climb,' juju cannot catch you. After all, you're not the only man in Naija abi? But John said sometimes, a man only needs to look at a babe's face and he's a goner! He said such babes powder their faces with the dreadful ‘follow me to hell' powder. I know there are evil-minded babes. Ladies who would go to any length to ensnare a man, even though they know he's married. Wicked ladies! But all I'm saying here is that sometimes, we need to accept faults for our actions and not place all blames for our foolishness on the door step of one juju or so called seducing spirits.
The most important thing is for one to be sexually disciplined. Don't allow your balls to control you. Learn to control them and bid farewell to the stupid spirit coming in whatever figure eight! But if you're one of those that seriously believe in spirits and juju, then distance yourself from silly pranks with other ladies. Maintain a good relationship with your wife and family. If the evil or whatever spirit comes, replace her with the vision and image of your wife. No sense in breaking the peace in your home by having a fling. A lot of flings have been known to become like troublesome bones stuck in the throat. Beware, that lady flashing those toothpaste smile, may very well have more ambition than you're willing to grant. If you won't grant it after a roll, she may have a way to make you. The only way to avoid such calamity would be to keep very well far from her. Most babes flashing smiles are no angels. No honey pot is worth causing your wife and children pains!
My pal's hubby found himself neck deep in a torrid affair with a prostitute. Whether he knew the woman was a prostitute or not is one thing we have not yet established till today. But there she was anyway, living in a shanty. She would be knocking on the doors of 50 and my friend's husband could not be more than 29.
Even for a prostitute she has gone stale! She has nothing anymore to offer her customers. Her boobs for long, have become Oshodi Isale yet this man mysteriously prefers her ageing and dirty body to that of his younger wife. It beats me. We later heard she used juju to catch him. My pal told me that the juju was placed in a food she gave her husband and another in her honey well…there you go again! What on earth led him to bang and eat her food in the first place? You guys know this story. It's old. I have told you before. She ensnared and made him lowered his guard by pretending to be his street mother. What the heck is his excuse? Na long throat go kill some people!