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Modinat Adamson, you're asking me a mischievous question. Well, if I like a guy, particularly if he is someone I see often, I can begin to dress fine and make myself available for him to notice. Of course, if our path crosses, I won't hesitate to say Hi to him, in a very special way, hoping that he would open a conversation with me.....
Modinat Adamson
You're asking me a mischievous question. Well, if I like a guy, particularly if he is someone I see often, I can begin to dress fine and make myself available for him to notice. Of course, if our path crosses, I won't hesitate to say Hi to him, in a very special way, hoping that he would open a conversation with me.....
In fact, there are many things I could do to attract a guy I like. As a student, if we've got assignments to do or notes to copy, I could exploit the opportunity to interact with him. Once in a while, I could flash him a toothy smile. If after giving him all these signals and he still fails to key in, I might make the first move. Yes so!
Debra Oyekanmi
I would always cheer up whenever I see him. I'll also chat him up as often as I can. I'll also get closer to him by asking him about one thing or the other. Ah! I almost forgot; I would pay more attention to my looks; dressing and all that. In short, anything that I could do to draw his attention, I'll do it. There is no hard and fast rule about it. The situation at hand would determine what I'd do. But definitely, I'll do something to get what I want. Trust me!
Naomi Chioma
I'll first find out the things he likes. If he likes music for instance, it would be very easy to reach him. I like music a lot. In fact, I sing well. Part of the scheme could be to walk past him with a CD, a Walkman in the hope that he'd admire the stuff and ask me one or two questions about it. I am sure if he is interested in music, we would definitely click. If he also likes my personality, then we would easily blend.
Agbabiaka Adejumoke
I am a unique person. If I find a guy I like, I'll just let him know right away. I'll express my feelings to him. I don't believe in dying in silence. You see, all these moves about dressing to kill and all that, don't apply to me at all. Once I feel I like a guy or I'm attracted to him, I will summon courage to approach him. That is me o! I don't beat about the bush, like giving a guy green light to come and toast me. No, I don't do that.
Keji Folarin
I'll start by drawing him into a conversation. I'm sure we'll be friends in less than a week. The moment we're friends, nature would take its course. Only a dumb guy wouldn't recognise my ‘come for me' signals. I believe interaction is the best green light you can ever give a guy you are interested in. That's the best way to get to know more about him. I personally believe that it is not a sin to do that if you truly love the guy in question. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that. It is not a sin, as far as I am concerned.
Tolulope Akinrinde
You'll be surprised when I'm through with this. I'm a very open person. I also like to make friends a lot. I take my time to study people I hope to take as friends. So, if you're my pal, you must be lucky. If I like the guy, I'll definitely make moves to get to know him better. I'll start by saying hello to him. At the end, we'll exchange phone numbers. By the time we get talking, I would have decided if I really want to date him or not. If at the end of the day I discover that I don't have feelings for him, we'll be platonic friends, nothing more than that.
Bunmi Adesanwo
I believe in building good friendship with people. Every decision I take affects my life one-way or the other. The same applies to the kind of guy I'm giving the green light and ultimately, the kind of person I date. I hate pretenders so I'll show the guy what I'm truly made of. I'll engage him in chats and we'll get to know each other better.
Sofiat Subair
Well, my style is simple. I'll try to get closer to by saying ‘Hi' to him from time to time. Getting a guy to warm up to me is not as hard as people might think. Yes, it could be hard for some babes, not me. For instance, I'll ask him for one thing or the other because that way, we'll get talking. Of course, that is already a platform for us to chat. If I like the guy, I grab the opportunity fast. I'll try to find out if he doesn't have a relationship. That is very important as far as I am concerned. True, some babes don't care, but I probe, just to avoid trouble. If the guy is already in a relationship, I'll probe to know if he is happy in it. If he's not involved with anyone, I'll let him know I like him and we'll hit it off from there. I am serious!
Olamide Ogunleye
Anytime I see the guy, I'll change my steps and walk in a more romantic way. I know it drives a lot of guys crazy, especially if he likes good things. I expect that he'd be bold to say Hi to me. The moment he says that, that will be it. One thing I've never done, and I'll not do, is to toast a guy. That's not my style. But I'll do everything to encourage him to just say Hi, even wink.
Tolulope Sulaiman
Without sounding vain, a lot of people tell me I've got a gorgeous smile. Do you agree with me (smiles)? If I've got a great smile, then I should be able to use what I have to get what I want. The next line of action might be opening a discussion with the guy. There's so much to talk about, especially if the guy is truly interested. Of course, I'll also step up my dress sense. I know that guys love good-looking ladies. Taking the extra step, such as making the first move? Well, I'm not sure about that, but I don't think there's anything wrong in walking up to a guy and telling him how I feel about him. But, I've got to admit, it's difficult and only few ladies with balls can make the move.
Esther Bassey
Hmm…. I doubt if such a thing would ever happen. I accept the fact that I can admire a guy. It could be his stature, the way he walks or any other thing. If I admire him, I would keep it to myself. If our path crosses, I would just say the usual hello to him. Why should I start giving a guy signs that I have soft spot for him? It is ridiculous and he's most likely to take undue advantage of me. If you give a guy green light, he would want to play games with you, that's bad. I don't go beyond admiration.
Sade
If I admire a guy, of course I will use what I have to get what I want. No, I don't mean using charms o! I'll never engage in such fetish practice. It's rubbish because I know there are some ladies that use it to enhance their chances of hooking guys. The bubble will eventually burst whether they like it or not. For the type of green light I can give a guy, I'll look for ways to start a conversation with him. I believe that is leading enough. I would also let him know that I admire and have feelings for him.
There's nothing in expressing your feelings to a guy you admire, especially the one you desire his presence in your life. It is here in Nigeria that we place too much emphasis on such things. We're very conservative people. We all know how Europeans handle such things. An American lady would easily say to a guy: ‘I want to f..k you or I'd love to have sex with you' if she likes the guy. The case is different in Nigeria. If you say a thing like that, you'd be seen as a very cheap girl.
Koforwola Dada
If I'm attracted to a guy, I'll focus on making sure we interact. If I discover that he's my kind of guy, I'll work on winning him with smiles and other body languages. If he eventually woos me, I'll tell him that we should be friends. I'm sure something good would come out of it. Guys are very funny. If you fall easily, they'll treat you like a piece of rag.
Belinda Anyanwu
A lady can always be tempted in such situations. It's not always easy but I'll do it. I will start with inviting smiles. If that doesn't work, I'll take a bolder step by finding a way to get closer to him. I'm sure I'll end up introducing myself to him. When we're close enough, I'll engage him in some form of gist. Guys love listening to sweet gist. I'm sure my charm will work the magic eventually. I am not unmindful of the fact that it is dangerous for a woman to make the first move in the game of dating. The danger is if the relationship hits the rock, he'll say things like: ‘After all, you were the one that toasted me.'
Chidimma Ezeh
I can give subtle signals but it won't go beyond that. How can I possibly approach a guy? Sorry o, I don't think I can stoop so low to approach a man, no matter how handsome he is. A woman has her pride to protect. But, if I truly like him to the extent of having feelings for him, I'd be nervous around him. I just wouldn't be myself especially when he is close. But to show him a full-blown green light? Never. It's like throwing one's pride and dignity to the dogs. If he feels the same way I do, then I'll let him make the first move. If he does, then we might just flow. You know exactly what I mean.
Adah Okafor
You must be joking. It is such a silly thing to do and I'm sure you know that. It is also dangerous because it creates the impression that you are not only cheap but a bloody flirt. The truth is that the moment a guy notices that you are attracted to him, it gets into his head. If you attempt to talk to him, he might snob you in a way you've never ever imagined. I hate embarrassment so I'll be devastated if it happens to me. If he snobs me, I'll end up hating him and that would ruin the whole thing. Please o, I just can't try it.