Posted by By Dupe Okanlawon on
The reason I find myself in a relationship with a guy is to share my feelings, thoughts and emotions together. How can a guy refuse to kiss me, touch me and we call ourselves lovers? Even if he is committed as in caring, loving and satisfying me financially, for Christ's sake we need to feel each other. If he refuses to do all these, then he has somebody else he is doing it with. Obviously he doesn't love me!
DEBBY
The reason I find myself in a relationship with a guy is to share my feelings, thoughts and emotions together. How can a guy refuse to kiss me, touch me and we call ourselves lovers? Even if he is committed as in caring, loving and satisfying me financially, for Christ's sake we need to feel each other. If he refuses to do all these, then he has somebody else he is doing it with. Obviously he doesn't love me!
SADE ONANUSI
You mean if my guy is naïve to touch me? In that case I think there should be a problem somewhere because a matured guy will naturally make advances towards his girl friend. It is rare in this modern time for one's lover to avoid romancing his girl. As for me, I will sit him down to discuss why he is reluctant to touch me. But in case he insists that there is no problem and he still keeps to himself, then I have no choice than to quit the relationship.
OLA
I have dated a virgin (man) before and you know what that means? In fact, there was a reversal of roles. All the advances at the initial stage were from me. It could be that the reason why he wasn't making a move was that he didn't know the approach and probably he wasn't bold enough. So these are the things one should put into consideration before taking any action. But if I make the move and it doesn't arouse or stimulate him, then I might consider quitting the relationship.
DUPE
Yes, I can still continue with such relationship because we might have agreed not to make love till we get married. So, he may see such advances as temptation that should be avoided. For instance, he may be the religious type, and such things are against God's will. I will have to play along with him. In fact, the more he abstains from it, the better for me because I will have a relaxed mind that I'm the only one he is dating and that gives me confidence that he is not after my body but wants to build a long-lasting relationship that could lead to marriage.
TAIWO
Hah! That will leave me in no doubt that he has another girl friend somewhere. Or, how do you explain the fact that he would refuse to touch me, even when I initiate a romance. Another possibility is that he could be gradually losing interest in me.
UDOKA
Well, this might sound so funny, but that kind of person would be a good match for me because when such things begin to occur, then something is gonna happen along the line. Naturally, I might feel he does not want to fall into any temptation. It might also be that he is too shy to talk to a lady. Honestly, I am perfectly okay with such a guy, but if his actions is based on the reasons I earlier mentioned then I will help him come out of his shell (laughter).
NINA
That is too bad. A man should be a man. I think I'm attractive enough to sensitize any guy but in this case, he makes me feel unattractive. I don't like guys that are not romantic. I hate a boring relationship, exactly what I was going through during my previous relationship. He was always avoiding me; not proud of me, and I had to quit. So in this kind of situation I won't even bother making moves because he will see me as a wayward person and may even feel that I'm forcing myself on him. At my age, it will be better for me to go looking for a sharp, romantic, playful and caring guy.
HELEN OMODARA
The guy I'm dating, whom I wish to marry neglecting my emotions and affection? Well, I think I have to let him go so he could look for his kind of person. As for me, I can't cope with such a guy because I can't imagine myself being tempted to sleep with another man to satisfy me than my man. So I would sit him down and ask what the problem is.
AGNES
Me date that kind of guy? No way. I can't o. Hm, imagine… I won't even be okay with him. See, there is what we call ‘love attraction' in a relationship. Once a relationship lacks that ingredient, it is definitely in danger. I need a guy that is crazily romantic. So a guy refusing to touch, kiss or romance me, must be passing a message that the sincere love is not there.
GBEMISOLA
Romance is very important in a relationship and that is the kind I want to have. Romance with love and affection keeps the relationship going. It makes it grow stronger and lively. It's fun having a romantic guy around you because it makes you feel appreciated. It can be really painful if my guy fails to understand my emotions.
MATILDA
If I have a guy like that, I will try to teach him, provided he is ready to learn. If not, I can't continue with such relationship. How can a guy tell me he wants the relationship to continue? If he is not making advances at a fine girl like me, then he must be in love with a man like him. This could be very dangerous.
KIKELOMO
It all depends. Some guys are like that. Maybe he is not expressive in nature, but if I like him so much and I still want to sustain the relationship, I think I will have to teach him how to make advances towards me and I could always make the first move because if I don't teach him and the relationship continues that way, it won't be nice at all. I will always feel neglected, unwanted, unattractive and unsafe. So, it's better you make him understand your feelings and emotions.
LOURETA
How can I date a dull guy? It is not possible because I am dull myself. So how can I date a dull guy. That won't happen. I need a sharp, lively, experienced and exposed guy. I want a guy to share good time with and even after we have left each other, the past memories we spent together keep occurring in my mind.
OMOBOLAJI
I'm the lively type and I don't even need that kind of person.
VICTORIA
Sincerely, I have to cut it off because I'm not active. So I need somebody that will make me lively. A guy should be a man; he should be able to admire and appreciate what he sees, but if he refuses that means something is wrong somewhere. I can't cope with him and I cannot settle down with that kind of person.
STELLA
My kind of person, I hate such nasty things. In fact, I don't like guys that kiss, touch, caress and romance their girl friends in public places. I can't cope with such guys, in fact I get tired of things like that. There are other things we could spend our private time on, not all about romance. In fact, sex life doesn't freak me at all. There are other things like taking me to new places and so on and so forth that could keep the relationship going. To hell with sex.
Jumoke
A guy that refuses to touch me simply means that he has somebody else he is romancing. He is not a born again, and even if he is, we still need to feel ourselves. I can't date or marry such a person. I'd rather look for someone else.